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Tuesday, 23 October 2012

Public Speaking *eek*

Well, here we are folks not only on the brink of Halloween but my book is almost here and should be in most major booksellers such as Amazon very soon; exciting and rather nerve-raking times.
Now all I have to do is try and sell my book, easy you might be thinking; just a few talks here and there and a handful of book signings to do. Well, the fact is, I’m petrified of public speaking! I’m definitely a 'behind the scenes' kinda gal! No drum-rolls or ta-da moments for me!

So how does a frightened new author overcome her nerves? Being such a scaredy cat, myself, I thought I would ask some of my author friends how they conquer their fears when talking in public:

  • Diana Rozevskis, as it turns out, my aunt just self-published a children's book. She went to the local grade school, sat in front of each class, and read it to the students. Children are the most forgiving audience you can get, so start there and hone your skills. Plus you will know if your target audience is interested. She sold a bunch of copies days after the event. It's a small community, and the children's mothers went to my aunt's house and said they must have a copy!

  • I'd rather have my eyes poked out with a stick than speak in public.

  • I used to do public speaking for a living hahaha I was a pastor. I never had a problem with anyone listening to me, if they didn't the church roof would have fallen down on them. hahahahaha 

  • I am naturally very shy (although most people will tell you I am not). When my children were in grade school and I was president of the PTA (Parent-Teacher Association) I became another person. My real self sat on a chair in the corner of my mind hiding until the public part was over. I still put my real self in another compartment so the "pubic extrovert" can have center stage.

  • Coming in right at the end to tell you that it is ok to be anxious, it ups your game a little. So, if you find that you've prepared to bits and you are still a bit nervous, that's ok. A bit of anxiety sharpens you up, just so long as it's not enough to paralyse. Deep breathing and all the great advice above, I'd listen to you. Description: smile

  • Practice, practice, and practice. I also tell myself that it's not about ME as much as something I'm offering them: information, entertainment, whatever. Takes some of the pressure off.

  • I never got over the jitters of speaking before an audience. Some writers can do both, write and speak. Some of us can only do one thing well. I have given it up. I used to do panels and speaking engagements and even teaching week-long courses at high schools about writing, but just...gave it up. I am not good at it. No point in beating that dead horse when it just can't get up and run.
  • There are a few keys I have learned:

     and record yourself. or practice to a mirror. Run over your notes and what you wanted to say in your head over and over, until they are second nature.

    Prepare: The best you can prepare your technology. Have backup copies of your presentation (if it is a PowerPoint or something similar) on CD and thumb drive. Bring your own laptop or tablet if possible, just in case.

    Expect the unexpected. The audience is there to hear you. They want to hear what you have to say. But life happens. Be ready if tech doesn't work, there is a smaller audience than expected, the room is too cold or too hot. . . .you never know. I have had everything go wrong that could, and you can always make the best of it.
  • ·         Hi Diana, there is a tried and tested way to prepare for public speaking. Once you have your script or prompt cards ready, perform your presentation and record yourself using your phone or laptop and listen to how it sounds. Work on the bits which don't sound good and keep rerecording yourself. Do it until you don't need the script or prompt cards anymore. Practice practice practice as being totally familiar with your script will give you so much more confidence and always remember that your audience are there because they want to listen to what you have to say or they wouldn't there.
  • uh - I didn't, all my promotion is on-line . . . I have zero desire to speak in front of people, if I did I wouldn't be a writer, I'd be a debater Description: wink
  • I don't do public speakings. Heck I need to have a couple of glasses of wine just to hang out with more than 2 or 3 people - very shy in person.
  • I haven't - I still get nervous as hell when talking in front of audiences. But I will say that it does get a little easier each time. It's best to remember that the people who are sat listening to you are there because they want to be - they're not waiting for you to make an arse of yourself or anything like that, they actually want you to do well and are interested in what you have to say Description: smile x

  • If its your first time I suggest you begin with something like, Good morning Ladies and Gentlemen, I'm Diana and I'm new to this... then smile and say please bear with me... I was a teacher which probably helped me! Good Luck Diana!

Of course, a different approach may be another option:

  • I just hire a double
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A lot of authors emphasize the benefits of getting 'out there' and speaking to the public, such as; resonating with your audience and promoting your books.
Of course, that's all well and good, but how do you comfort your nerves when you know that  all eyes are upon you and they are listening to every word you say? You know you will inevitably turn into a jibbering stuttering mess and forget everything you have practiced beforehand. 

Other people's advice on the web:

  • Join Toastmasters and actively participate.
  • Get involved with story-telling groups.
  • Hire a voice coach.
  • Find a mentor (someone you admire and has experience)
  • Stay local at first, speak perhaps at; church, bookshops, libraries and schools.
  • Find your voice that carries well.
  • Cut out the filler words like; uh, ah, er.
  • Use vocal variety and not keep it monotone throughout.
  • Be prepared; check out venue, props and get your notes organised.
  • Know your audience.
  • Start with something that grabs their attention.
  • Never write out the whole speech, prompt cards are better.
  • Choose a short excerpt to read from your book.
  • Never assume that because the audience isn't nodding and smiling that they are not enjoying your talk. 

So there you have it, plenty of good advice for me to mull over. Why does that not make me feel any better? 
Well, I guess I will just have to bite the bullet and get myself out there won't I?
So, if our paths do ever cross, please bare in mind that I'll be, almost definitely, shaking in my boots and probably going to faint at any minute.

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